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This was meant to be a quick warm up, but it turned into a comic that I’ve wanted to draw for a while. This is something that is extremely important to me, and I appreciate it if you read it.

A while ago, I heard a story that broke my heart. A family went a cat shelter to adopt. The daughter fell in love with a 3-legged cat. The father straight up said “absolutely not”. Because he was missing a leg. That cat was that close to having a family that loved him, but the missing leg held him back. Why?!

Many people have the initial instinct of “nope” when they see an imperfect animal. I get it, but less-adoptable does NOT mean less loveable. 9 out of 10 people will choose a kitten over an adult cat. And those 10% that would get an adult cat often overlook “different” animals.

All I want people to do is be open to the idea of having a “different” pet in their lives. Choose the pet that you fall in love with, but at least give all of them a fair shot at winning your heart.

Don’t dismiss them, they deserve a loving home just as much as any other cat. They still purr, they still love a warm lap, they still play, they still love you. Trust me, next time you are in the market for a new kitty, just go over to that one cat that’s missing an eye and see what he’s all about!

Let me tell to you a thing.

This is Lenore. I first saw her in a little cage at the Petco I frequent (I used to take my parents’ dog in for puppy play time), and she looked like the grouchiest, old, crotchety cat in the world, and I fell instantly in love. She was cranky, she was anti-social, hanging out at the back of her cage. Her fur was matted because she wouldn’t let the groomers near her.

She was perfect.

But I didn’t have a place for her. I wasn’t living in my own space yet, and where I was, I wasn’t allowed cats. So I pressed my face to the bars of her cage and I promised that if no one had adopted her by the time I’d bought a house, I would come back for her.

I visited her every week for over six months while I looked for a house. At one point, they had to just shave her entire rear-end because the mats or fur were so bad. They told me she clawed the heck outta the groomer that did it, screamed the entire time, and spent the next two days growling at anyone that came near the cage.

A couple of weeks later, I closed on my house. I went back and I got an employee, and I said: “That one. I need that cat.”

They got the paperwork and the lady who ran the rescue that was bringing the cats in told me that Lenore (at the time, Lila) was 8 years old, had been owned by an elderly lady who had died, and brought in to a different rescue, who’d had her for six months on top of the time I’d been seeing her at Petco.

This kitty had been living in a 3x3’ cube for over a YEAR because she was older and “less adoptable.”

I signed the paperwork, put her in a cat carrier, and drove her to my new home. I had pretty much nothing; a bed, an old couch, a couple of bookcases, and a tank of mice I called “Cat TV”. I let her out of the carrier and onto my bed, and I told her “I told you I would come back for you when I had a place. It’s not much, but it’s yours too now.”

Lenore spent the next three days straight purring non-stop. She followed me around the house purring. Sat next to me purring. Slept next to me purring. Leaning into every touch, purring, purring, always purring. She still purrs if you so much as think about petting her. She’s amazing, and I love her.

So, you know, if you’re thinking about adopting, and you see a beast that others consider “less adoptable,” think about Lenore.



It’s pretty much the same for dogs! I’ve raised many puppies of all different breeds and it’s tough. Doable, but tough. Takes a lot of time, patience, love, and energy (and money). And personalities can sometimes change from puppyhood to adulthood. What’s a cute little tiny thing that sleeps a lot can turn into an energetic and restless monster (monster in an endearing way) that loves to bite up your furniture. I should know, I have an American Bulldog that was 10 pounds when we got her as a puppy and loved to nestle up between my boobs for a nap and is now pushing 70 pounds and making a chew toy out of the couch (she still thinks she’s small enough to nap between my boobs, though.)

I’m not saying don’t adopt puppies or kittens—please do, if you have the capability. A nice home for any animal is a great thing. But if you’re someone who a) doesn’t have a lot of experience with animals or has never had a pet before b) lives in a small or not very animal-friendly place or c) works a lot/is gone most of the day, then getting a puppy or a kitten is really the last thing you should be doing. If you really want a pet, an adult animal is a much smarter choice for both you and the pet. Adult animals, even special needs ones like animals missing limbs or eyes, know how to take care of themselves better. They’ll be more of a companion to you, and less of a child-like pet that you need to baby. Adult animals will offer you more comfort and relaxation—a nice friend to cuddle up with after a long day—whereas puppies and kittens will need to be looked after and can sometimes cause you more stress. 




mariah carey and ariana grande getting in a fight


I’m literally crying.